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Wednesday, September 18, 2013

Obedience

Jeremiah stepped into the pool, was immersed as a public display of obedience, after accepting the Messiah as his Savior. An angelic glow came over his countenance. He jumped for joy at the decision he had just made. My husband and I watched his baptism, an answer to many years of praying. Tears of joy poured down my face as I saw my autistic son make a major change in his life.

Changes in his mannerisms, his language, and the light of Christ in his eyes, affirmed the work that was taking place in his heart. As a child of God, he began listening to the quiet voice in his soul. He focused on learning about his Redeemer, so he could become a blessing to others in need.

Jeremiah was all too familiar with that feeling. His past was filled with many hardships, bullying, month long stretches in mental health hospitals, hours of therapy, a plethora of medications, and multiple threats of suicide. He was defined by autism and all that it encompasses. His biggest desire was to be accepted for who he was, not by his disability. Now he had his blessed Deliverer to turn to and was in-tune with the inaudible whisperings.

As was his custom, Jeremiah walked around his neighborhood and ministered to the homeless. It was not unusual for him to spend his last cent to feed the hungry. As they ate he shared what God was doing in his life and offered them the chance to experience the same joy. Some did and others had questions for this new babe in Christ. He didn't have all the answers, so he devoutly immersed himself in the Bible. The more he absorbed about his faith, the more he became in tune with the murmurings of the Holy Trinity.

On one special day, as he was walking, he heard God speaking to him. The message was to share the Good News with the next person he saw. Almost immediately he met a young couple. As any of those on the spectrum would do, he took the message to literally mean one person, not two. He passed them by and continued walking and praying. Within minutes he saw a young man approaching and knew this was the one. He stopped the man and introduced himself. It was evident that this man was heart broken, depressed, and in need. Regardless of what his need was, Jeremiah knew that Jesus was the answer. He began to share Jesus with him. On the sidewalk, of a busy street, the young man listened intently to Jeremiah. He accepted Christ that day and the cloud of despair lifted from him. He was experiencing a new joy for life. Jeremiah gave him his phone number and told him to call if he needed anything, had questions, or wanted to pray. Little did Jeremiah know, that was the last time he would see him.

Unexpectedly, three days later he received a call from the young man's father. He had found Jeremiah's name and number in his son's pocket and wondered the part he had played in his life. Jeremiah shared what had transpired. Curtis, the man's father, had bad news to share. His son had been found dead the day before before. Jeremiah was able to share that this man's son was in heaven, at the foot of his Savior's feet. Blessed, Curtis invited Jeremiah to his home. Once there, he learned more about Curtis's son and became friends with the family. Not having a way home he called us for a ride. We went to Curtis's home and were immediately invited inside. Curtis shared with us about his son and how glad he was that Jeremiah listened to his heart. We have all become friends and talk frequently.

My son had reminded me, by his obedience to the quiet voice inside of him, that I too could become a bold witness. I have rededicated my life to Christ and to sharing how Jesus has saved this sinners life.

Thursday, July 11, 2013

My First Book, "Jeremiah's Journey, Gaining Our Autistic Son by Losing Him to the System" Is Available Now

My book, "Jeremiah's Journey, Gaining Our Autistic Son by Losing Him to the System" will officially released 10/01/13. However, I have two places you can purchase the book. Here's where you can purchase advance, non-autographed copies at http://www.tatepublishing.com/bookstore/book.php?w=9781625106049. You can purchase autographed copies by emailing me at win.quier@yahoo.com or by leaving a message for me here.
Paperback and ebook copies are available by both methods.

Tuesday, July 2, 2013

A Fishing Trip in Alaska and Barely Making It Out Alive


http://voices.yahoo.com/fishing-alaska-barely-making-out-alive-12215788.html


 A short story about a fishing trip when I was in my twenties and married to my first husband. My husband, Joe, isn't a fisherman, plus he wouldn't get caught in such a dangerous situation. Smart man.  I hope you enjoy the diversion.

Sensory Processing Massage by Dr. John Pagano

We wanted to share with you today a video on the art of Sensory Processing Massage by Dr. John Pagano which can be used for calming children with Autism. So if you are struggling with behavioral issues these are practical techniques you can use with your child in the comfort of your own home.

The Editor of Autism Parenting Magazine allowed Dr. Pagano to work with her daughter and saw vast improvements over a six month period in decreasing oral sensitivity, decreasing sleep problems, and a huge decrease in meltdowns. She was very skeptical of the massage but has seen its enormous benefits for children on the spectrum.

So check out the video and please feel free to like and share so other people can benefit from the technique

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CTSEd8hWiVI

The full interview with Dr. John is featured in Issue 3 of Autism Parenting Magazine and you can get your magazine in either the ipad or pdf version.



Regards

Mark and Leslie


www.AutismParentingMagazine.com

How to Be a Good Friend to Someone Who Has an Autistic Child

1. Inform yourself on autism.
2. Be sensitive to both the parent and child and the fluctuations in moods.
3. Realize that your friend may not be able to take her child to events that atypical children attend.
4. Be understanding with your friend, she may not always be able to answer the phone or make plans with you.
5. Listen, sometimes your friend just needs someone to listen, don't offer advice – just listen.
6. Offer to watch your friend's child for an hour or two so that she can have a much needed break. This could be during the day so she can go shopping or get a mani-pedi, or at night so that she and her husband can have a date night.
7. Attend a support group, school meeting, or doctor appointment with her.
8. Bring over dinner, call her in advance so she'll know you will be providing it.
9. Pray for her and her family.
10. Send your friend an encouraging note, card, text or email.
11. Find out what the autistic child's favorite thing to do is and invite them to experience it.
12. Offer to help your friend clean her house, do her laundry, or walk her dog.
13. If your friend has atypical children also, offer to take them to the park or a movie.
14. Learn what is the most calming thing the autistic child likes to do and offer to learn how to do it.
15. Think before you speak. Never say “Get over it.”, use the word retarded, or any other insensitive or offhand comment that will affect your relationship with your friend.

Monday, May 13, 2013

AutismSpeaks Request for Support of New 529 Savings Act for Children with Autism

AutismSpeaks has a request to contact your local representatives and senators to sign a new bill that could affect you and your autistic child. Please visit the following link to read more about Achieving A Better Life Experience Act (ABLE) which is a 529 tax savings act where parents of autistic children can save money, tax free, for their child's future.

http://advocacy.autismspeaks.org/c.frKNI3PCImE/b.8565329/k.EC7A/ABLE_Is_Back_Urge_Your_Members_of_Congress_to_Sign_On/siteapps/advocacy/ActionItem.aspx

Saturday, May 11, 2013

In My Mom's Memory

Hi dear friends,

On January 17, 2013 my mother, Clara Lynn Robinson passed away.  She went peacefully in her sleep with her pug by her side.  Mom left behind a brother, George Jackinsky; two sisters, Barbara Redmond and Cora (I've forgotten her last name); daughters Melody Daniel, Win Quier and Cindy Currier.  She was preceded in death by her husband, Frank Robinson and daughter, Janette Koontz.

Mom was born in Ninilchik, Alaska in 1932.  She was raised by her father and grandmother because her mother died shortly after her birth.  She grew up on a fish site in Starisky, Alaska and had to walk the beach to town to get their mail and groceries.  Timing with the tide was imperative or they would have to climb up the banks and wait out high tide.  She lost her father on her 10th birthday.  He drowned while boating across Cook Inlet to a fish site.  A bore tide came in and his small boat couldn't take the speed and force of it.

She homesteaded in Homer, Alaska with her husband and four daughters.  The view from our homestead was breathtaking.  Three giant glaciers and the view of the beach across Kachemak Bay was a daily blessing.  It seemed that no two days were alike.

Mom also loved to cook, knit, crochet and sew.  Later in life, when she wasn't so busy, she also loved to read romance novels.  Pinochle and cribbage were her favorite games.

She received a pug puppy from some good friends when her long time pet passed away.  She named her Honey Bear and spoiled her rotten.  They were extremely close and it wasn't unusual to see Honey Bear cuddled up on her chest.  Mom and Honey Bear were the mascots of the complex where she lived.  I inherited her when mom passed away and she's adjusting to being one of two dogs in the house and the climate change from Alaska and Oklahoma.

Mom has been sorely missed.  Her and I had made a pact when I spent six weeks with her shortly before she died.  Whenever I find a dime it's a sign that she is watching over me.  I've found three so far in unusual places.  My favorite is the dime on the floor on my side of my husband's van.  I smile and say, "Hi mom.  I love you." whenever I slide into my seat.  My husband has promised to leave that dime there so that I have special moments often with her.

I love you mama.  You set a good example and I'll be eternally grateful that God picked you to be my mother.




Dani Bowman, an 18-year-old girl on the autism spectrum

I recently received an email from Autism Speaks.  It was about Dani Bowman and the business she has started.  Dani is an 18 year old girl on the autism spectrum.

Here's a link to her site.  It's worth checking out.  http://www.powerlight-studios.com/

Blessings,
Win

Tuesday, April 30, 2013

Keeping Up With Win

As I mentioned before I have a book, "Jeremiah's Journey", coming out soon.  The process has taken longer than I expected.  There are so many steps to a finished product.  I am currently editing the final draft and should be finished with it by weeks end.

My first impression was my book would be ready for publishment early this year.  Due to the lengthy process of editing and cover design it's taken much longer.  While I don't have a date set in stone, it should be published by July. 

Waiting has been the hardest part of the process.  A close second is the editing process.  As many times that I read and re-read my manuscript there were many corrections to be made.  Thank heavens for editors.  I'd be embarassed of the final product if it had not been edited.  While the professional editor did her job well I am still finding duplicate entries, an extra to or and here and there, and rewording a sentence so it makes sense.

I have my book's draft in hand and love the work that was done on the front and back cover.  As many words as I had written, the book is much smaller than I thought it would be.  That won't be a mistake I'll make on my next book.

I have started an Amish romance novel and fiction book based upon a real family.  Naturally names and places will be changed.  I also have been writing short stories along the same theme that I hoped to get published as a compilation. 

I'm trying a different approach to my next projects.  I've started with an outline to use as a guide in my writing process.  I know I'll probably stray from the outline but expect the bunny trails to enrich the charaters and plot.

I'll be posting again soon...hopefully annoucing "Jeremiah's Journey" website and other sites it will be available for sale.

"Don't let yesterday use up too much of today."  Will Rogers

Wednesday, October 24, 2012

I'll be participating in NaNoWriMo (National Novel Writing Month) in November. I'm changing genre's from memoir to romance and will be writing an Amish romance novel in one month. I have spent the last four months doing research, have started an outline and am ready to write that first sentence and more. I will commit four hours per day to writing and leave the editing for December and January. It's said that the best way to complete a project is by letting others know of your plans. What better way than by announcing it on my blog and my author facebook page at http://www.facebook.com/pages/Win-Quier-Author/240055379451054.

Friday, August 31, 2012

It's in the process!!!

Wednesday, August 29, 2012, I signed my contract with Tate Publishing from Mustang, OK, my book was accepted and the publishing process has begun!  As expected, I am very excited about this process and hope the 6-7 month process will go swiftly.

So far I've reformatted my manuscript to their requirements and am waiting for the person writing my Introduction to finish his piece.  He is my therapist and needed to check with staff to ensure he wouldn't be overstepping his boundaries of our relationship of patient/therapist.  He has been with me during the hardest steps in the book and his input would gladly be accepted.  I'm hoping for a positive outcome.

Without revealing actual costs (this is a self-published company) I'd like to tell everyone not to take any self-publishing company's original price as the final say.  I think every one of them will work with you either with a payment schedule or a reduced price.  Don't be afraid to ask...it won't hurt and you might come away with a better deal.

I'll keep you updated as I go through this process.  My prayer is that things will go smoothly and we'll come away with a money making book in the end.  I'll keep being realistic and realize that most books, unless they hit the New York Best Seller's List, aren't going to make you a lot of money.  All I want is to help with our retirement since my husband and I are reaching that stage in our life.

If it's successful then you'll be seeing my next book, an Amish romance novel.  I'm in the research and outline stage of my new book now and it's taking a lot of reading to delve into their customs and lifestyle.  After being told that they (publishers) can't get enough Amish romance novels, I thought it would be the best place to start with my second book.

In the meantime I am submitting query letters to magazines on two different articles I have written.  This may not turn out to be fruitful, but having the right to say I have a book in the publishing process will carry more weight in my query letter.  I've done my reseach well and only have submitted the query letters to magazines that might be interested in my articles topics.

Join me in the joy of reaching this stage as an author.  Getting your book published is like giving birth (almost) and it's only 6-7 months long instead of 9!  lol

Tuesday, August 21, 2012

The Publishing Process - Step Two

Step One was submitting my book for publication and now we are on to Step Two, the acceptance email and phone call.

I received an email last Friday...my book has been accepted for publication by Tate Publishing!  My original email from them said it would take weeks to hear from them was correct, but not as long as I had anticipated. The email said the contacts in the mail and little else except for the fact that my book, "Jeremiah's Journey", had been accepted.

I received a phone call yesterday while I was at the dentist, and the message that Eric, my Acquisitions Editor, left was positive, upbeat and helpful.  He called to follow-up the email and to offer support and the next step in the publishing process. Since this is my first book I have a lot of questions and will call Eric today to ask some of them.

I've read some of the books published by Tate and was pleased with their covers and inside details and professionalism.  It's my hope that my book will turn out just as good or better.  One thing they said was that they receive approximately 15,000-16,000 submissions each year and only accept between 4% and 6% for publication. An impressive number to be a part of and I hope it wasn't just to make me feel better about choosing their company to publish my book.

It's my understanding that they (Tate) will set up book signings at local book stores, and put together a notice for the newspaper.  While my book was written in Oklahoma and will be published by an Oklahoman publishing company I hope that it will not limit us to this state.  It will be available on Amazon in book and e-book formats so I'm hoping for a broader audience.

I'll keep you posted on the publishing process.  I'm sure there will be some editing as Eric put it "I think your material has a lot of potential..." which translates to me...editing.  I look forward to the next steps and sharing my journey with you.

Thursday, July 19, 2012

Well, I've taken the next step...that is with my manuscript of course.  I've submitted it to Tate Publishing and am now in the waiting stage.  To date I've received an email and a phone call, both which I take as positive steps in the publishing process.  I was told it could take weeks before I hear from them next and that's the toughest part...the waiting.

My book, Jeremiah's Journey, Gaining Our Autistic Son by Losing Him to the System, was a heart wrenching book to write.  Having to relive some of the difficult parts of our lives wasn't easy, but necessary. To make the book "real" I had to include the mistakes we made and the results from the mistakes, the depression that can come from raising a difficult and sometimes violent Autistic child, and the pressures that can be made on your marriage.  We were fortunate and despite the marital stresses our faith in each other kept us close and working as a team.  All too often divorce is a result and one parent is left with the bulk of responsibilities.  During our rough patches we both looked at that aspect and decided it wasn't fair to the other partner and worked on coming closer rather than letting it cause a rift.  Having a close relationship with The Creator helped most during those rough spots.

I'll keep you posted on this exciting process of getting my manuscript into book form.  Celebrate with me as I take each step in the process.  Tate may turn out not to be the right publisher but it's a starting point.  I'm learning as I go and enjoying the experience.  It'll help me with my next two projects, a children's book and a romance novel.  It's fun to branch out and experience the different genres.

Wednesday, March 7, 2012

Healing From Surgery

The surgery is done and I'm in the healing process which should be short.  They were able to do the surgery from inside my mouth because my jaw was loose once I was put to sleep.  No damage to the titanium plates had been done and they couldn't find anything wrong.  So that means we are back to ground zero.  I am still in pain, other than from the surgery, and they think it is caused from some muscular damage.  So I need a referral to a specialist that can help with the muscles, possibly have to wear a mouth piece at night to stop grinding and determine what is acutually wrong.  I've reached a point of frustration and I'm hungry for something more than soup, mashed potatoes and cream of wheat cereal.  It'll be nice to be on the healthy side once again and I'm hoping my pain management doctor isn't going to change my medications due to the surgery result.  What he has me on is the best working medications I've been on so far.    All I want right now is to get heathy and pain free.

Wednesday, February 8, 2012

Surgery finally a go!

It's only taken a little over a year but I finally have a date for my jaw surgery.  I have what the doctor's think is fibrous growths bilaterally in my jaws which are causing havoc with my titanium jaw joints.  I have been in a lot of pain and on medication during this entire process.  The surgery will be to remove the fibroids,  as well as to determine if any of the screws have come loose. I can hear squeaking in my jaws when I chew.  If the screws have come loose and can't be tightened they'll have to remove the joints, wire my mouth shut and have custom made joints constructed for me.  That is a minimum of a six week process.  I'm praying it's just fibroids.  In the mean time I have one more appointment for pre-op testing and then off to the real deal.  By the way, the surgery will be done in Oklahoma City, over 100 miles away because there aren't any qualified surgeons in network with my insurance company any closer to home.  A bit of an inconvenience when it comes to pre and post-op appointments.



In the meantime I'll continue working on my book (I don't have to talk to write the book) and getting closer to finishing my manuscript and having it ready for proofreading, editing and finally going to print.  In a previous post I have given you a glimpse into the book by posting my rough draft of the prologue and a link to where you can become a part of this process.  I come on bended knee pleading for support on my project.  Any support, regardless of the amount, is greatly appreciated.  Here's the link again to make it even easier for you,  http://www.kickstarter.com/projects/1596973182/jeremiahs-journey-a-book-on-an-autistic-boys-journ


Blessings,
Win



Thursday, January 19, 2012

Prologue to Jeremiah's Journey

As promised in an earlier post here is the prologue to my book, Jeremiah's Journey, Gaining Our Autistic Son By Losing Him to the System    I hope it gives you some insight into what the book is about.

“What is he doing right now? What is he feeling?” I asked myself while envisioning him sitting on a chair waiting for his mom and dad to pick him up. All the while he knew they said they wouldn’t, but there was always a chance. Did his head turn to the door each time that now familiar noise sounded beside him? Was he pacing and stimming as he does when he is stressed? Did he hate us? What was he thinking? How did he feel?

The uncontrollable tears, inconsolable sadness and feeling of being a Titanic sized failure as a mother flooded my soul as I watched the minutes draw closer to 5:01 p.m., the time I had to let go of my son. The time I had to abandon him. How could I, a devoted, loving mother, take such a drastic tough love step? How could I not take this agonizing step to get him the help he needed? He had reached the stage where we couldn’t handle him anymore and his outbursts had become more violent.

What did we miss while he was growing up? Was there another doctor my husband and I could have taken him to for more tests? Was there a new treatment that we missed while searching for information on the web? These are the type of questions the parent of a child on the Autism Spectrum ask themselves most of the time.

Our story doesn’t start here. I’ll need to catch you up on our roller coaster ride to that fateful day in January 2009.


If after reading this prologue you feel inclinded to support my efforts to bring this book to print I encourage you to visit Jeremiah's Journey, Gaining Our Autistic Son By Losing Him to the System and consider becoming an active patron.  Any and all pledges are greatly appreciated and an answer to prayer.  Thank you for your precious time and consideration.

Win Quier

Tuesday, January 10, 2012

My New Book Venture

As I have mentioned in previous posts I am writing a book entitled 'Jeremiah's Journey' Gainging Our Autistic Son By Losing Him to the System.  It's the true story of our son, Jeremiah, and the journey we made with him from birth to us forced into giving him up to DHS and him graduating from high school then getting his first apartment.  It is still a work in progress but my goal is to have the manuscript completed by April 2012 and ready for prfessional proofreading, editing and then printing in September 2012.  That's where you come into the picture.  By visiting Jeremiah's Journey you will have the opportunity to help bring this book to fruition now.  My heartfelt gratitude for any support that you can give.

Win

Friday, January 6, 2012

Happy New Year

Happy New Year my friends!  May this new year bring joy and blessings to you and yours.

My resolutions this year are few.  Finish my book is high on the list but along with that is raising funds to pay for the publishing, getting my manuscript proofread and find a publisher willing to take on my project.  It is supposed to be easier now to get published than ever before but I want to make sure my book is error free before it hits the shelves.  We finally have a working title for it...Jeremiah's Journey; Gaining Our Autistic son by Losing Him to the System.  I'll be posting the prologue of the book here prior to releasing it for sale.  A little teaser.

Another resolution is to take more time to show and tell my loved ones how much I care.  I lost a family member in December and it hit hard because we had lost contact about 25 years ago.  Hard feelings that were never healed took away a possible relationship.  I don't want that to happen again thus the change.  An 'I'm sorry' or 'I love you' go along way and they will be coming out of mouth more this year.

I think that pretty much covers the resolutions.  They'll both keep me busy and make a better person of me.  May you be blessed in 2012 with something unexpected.  Happy New Year!

Wednesday, December 21, 2011

Click to Help Treat Autism

I ran across two websites where you can click to give your support.  Your click counts towards help in treating those with Autism and cancer in children.  It is FREE to click and there are no strings attached.  I click daily to support those who are interested in helping the Autistic or child with cancer and their families.  Here are the links.  Please join me in the simple act of clicking to make a difference in these children's lives.

  Autism Help and Click to Give

Thursday, December 1, 2011

Avoiding Holiday Meltdowns

I touched on the topic of holiday meltdowns in my last post but wanted to expand on it a bit.  If I repeat myself it's for positive effect (honest...it couldn't be my age...lol).

December is a busy month for most faiths, so regardless of your's if you have a developmentally delayed child you'll be wanting to avoid the meltdowns that can happen with so much activity.  Flashing lights, loud music, and crowds of people can be a trigger if your child has sensory issues.  Put yourself in your child's place, even get down on their level to see exactly what they see.   Younger children are down in a sea of people with stimuli bombarding them from every angle.  Nonsymptomatic children get fussy in these situations, just imagine what the child with disabilities and sensory sensitivity is going through.

Some tips to avoid overstimulation starts before you leave your home.  Talk to your child and explain where you are going, what you are going to do, how many people are going to be present, what's expected of them, and give your child a word or phrase to use to communicate when he's almost on overload.  The last item works best with a little older children who can recognize a meltdown coming on.   Feed your child before going out.  An empty tummy leads to a bad attitude.

When you are out give yourself permission to stop what you are doing, i.e. shopping, dining out, etc., and remove yourself from the situation.  Getting angry or upset over a meltdown only adds fuel to the fire.  You have to remain calm, the child might begin to mirror your calm behavior.  If you do not remain calm you can be guaranteed you will be mirrored resulting in a meltdown of gigantic porportions. 

Give your child a responsibility while you are out.  If you are shopping make it his job to remember one or two items and watch for them on the shelf.  It is difficult to have a meltdown when you are concentrating on something.  Make a game of whatever you are doing.  If you are playing a game your child is less apt to go off the deep end.

Use a weighted sock, blanket or vest prior to and shortly after a large event.  You can find an example at http://weightedvest.com/.  You can make the sock yourself.  Simply fill a tube sock with white rice and sew the end shut.  Either microwave or refrigerate for the desired effect and place the tube sock around your neck laying on your shoulders.  I added a vanilla scent to the rice so we had aromatherapy going on at the same time.  Lavender and vanilla are the two best relaxers.

These are just a few suggestions.  I'll add more later as I recall exactly what we did to reduce our sons meltdowns.